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Let yourself be enlightened parents 8 points

Family education is the most error-prone places, a common fact is that because parents felt that he was not a genius, so expecting their child is a genius. A proposition is correct, as long as parents and their children grow up together, even though we are not geniuses, but we can be a genius parents.
1. lack of family education "equality of personality"
[Children's initial understanding of the world from their parents, the influence of family education on human imprint. Indifference to education responsibilities, bias naturally led to the idea of family education error-prone. ]
Most of our parents not trained. Whether it be as a child, and grew up in love and marry, whether in school or in the community, few of us how parents. Even if it was said, might be "the rod, spoil the child" and "not to become" idea, but right is that we need to reflect on these.
As we all know, to drive vehicles, still need to go to driving school to learn and undergo a rigorous test to get a license for three months; and to be parents, "driving" family boat sailing may not be for three months to learn.
Besides, modern people who are too lazy to do even premarital, impossible to conduct three months of professional training, bewildered parents, regardless of their language, seem to act, education in the children leave behind some what Sakura many parents neglect their duties of education. As the social focus is school education, more consideration is school education, ignoring their own real Education Foundation, is the key to determining the fate. The saying goes: three years old. Initial understanding of the world of children from their parents, the influence of family education on human imprint. Indifference to education responsibilities, bias naturally led to the idea of family education error-prone.
Parents have big ambitions into a Phoenix home education can be easily go off course. Parents didn't realize, don't succeed instead of counting on their children to complete. A Harvard girl Liu yiting sold millions of copies, is the reaction of parents of this psychological. Too much concern from parents, excessive care, denied the child room to grow. Survey found that today's College students don't know how his life, in fact, many of them don't consider anything from small to large, get up?
Too restrictive, too much interference would hamper the child's potential release. We are often talking down to children, "parent" claim: "you are my life, I let you listen to, you don't listen, find missing beat a 1 family education" equality of personality "(this is the fundamental spirit of the Charter of the United Nations Children's), how can we help children grow up healthy?
2. parents have not progressed and how expect children into a dragon and a Phoenix?
[Say parents are role models. Usually behind the excellent children's talents, could find a warm and harmonious family shadow. Similarly, a person form healthy personality, also can be found in his family conflicted and contradictory factors. ]
When parents send their children to primary school, secondary school, likes to say: "teacher, all this child to you, come on 1 the subtext is" me "has nothing to do. In fact, absolutely not on the line.
Move the Earth, is the cradle of the hand. Good families are often accompanied by parents and children grow up together; bad families tend to give their children the negative impact. There is a true story can prove that:
A second child in a school in Zhangjiagang, reviewing for a test at home on Sunday night, his parents, invite a few friends over playing mahjong, whose noise disturbed children, the child but said: "more than 11 points, and also, how do I test? "Ma friends are cozy and children ignored. Child is angry, on the TV, and turn the volume down, make your neighbors door, his parents lose face, beat him up. Children running overnight ... ... Friends often ask me how much time per week with the children together? I said due to busy with work, I interact with children, not many, but as long as the child sees, I must be in reading and writing. Example than precept. Parents have less time to stay at home, how many books are there in the House, foster children are not the same. In 2004, China made a survey of the Press Association: the 45% of the family without books, no bookcases; Korea had 96.8% families have an average of more than 500 books. No scholarly family, which have scholarly campus, passion? Parents do not advance how expect children into a dragon, a Phoenix?
Learning families, parents and children is to grow together, or even interaction. They tend to have some successful ways, such as parent-child shared reading, parent-child communications, tells the story. The growth and the growth of children of parents, is a never-ending process. Parents of continuous improvement, continuous learning, is invisible and profound influence on the child.
3. character is more important than knowledge, status is greater than [destruction of life people are invisible, like constant dripping wears away the same life achievement is also silent. Only if you focus on the details and process of life, only to become the master of life, can be life achievements. ]
Architectural personality of the great wall is the most important task of family education. Life is often a June cover the multitude of sins. With high scores, good grades are seen as good kids. In fact, the effects of lifelong developmental factors, fractions are not the most important, plays a restraining effect on the character and character, is the joy of life, is a popular, respected, rather than knowledge.
Dribs and drabs of influence, will lay a solid foundation for sound development of the personality of many parents are more concerned about learning, as long as I do well, what requirements are agreed, what wishes are met. Low moral character and not be concerned, some children lie, take home or someone else's, self centered, regardless of other people's feelings. This educational philosophy, was worrying.
My child also took home as a child, but we let him know that made this mistake by far than a exam failed punishment, let him know that MOM and dad are not very important points, and attach great importance to moral, making him a humble person.
Habits are very important. My kids were young missed all day, buy rulers lose tomorrow today, through third grade goes to school by bike, the key is often lost, often to us. What to do! We decided: keys lost themselves go back inside to get a spare key. Grade four or so, he heaved the car back home. Then how much time and effort! Exchange never lost is the key. Therefore, parents should pay attention to cultivation of moral character education.
Destruction of life people are invisible, like constant dripping wears away the same life achievement is also silent. Only if you focus on the details and process of life, only to become the master of life, can be life achievements. New educational experiment with slogans: "the State is greater than the method, method is more than hard work. "Contrary to reality, is" hard work is greater than, is greater than the State. " In fact, man and man is the biggest gap. With State there, there are State wanted to do, there is likely to be successful.
Not long ago, a graduate student committed suicide by jumping from Fudan University, he was a liberal arts college entrance exam in the province, said that academic achievement is outstanding, but how? White parents had him, might as well not go to College stay children, no contribution to society at all. A scholar said, philosophers and ordinary workers of gap gap is much smaller than wild dogs, and dogs. Philosophers and the gap is caused by the Division of workers. The gap is a unit in the same types of people responsible. Some are wise, but he's doing nothing, complaining, he does not have to be. So, the most important State, is the spirit. Can help in cultivation of mental States, you must go to where helpless, little to do or not do.
4. common childhood back to children feeling: now children have no childhood, no happiness. As long as enrolled in school is no good. Before entering kindergarten, parents with a lot of dreams, let the children play, drawing, singing, dancing ... ... Into schools, into test circle, a lot of parents out of previous games. Of course learn not to give their children happy, but hopes a lot of fantasy. Gradually, the reality for breaking their dreams, by junior high, those hobbies were kill in the beautiful fantasy. The rest is "bitter". As kids say: "get up early I, slept late, I, I is the most bitter and most tired, I, I, I, I. "
Happiness is a kind of experience, enjoy the happiness of education, this is a kind of State of education. Ask kids happy? The answer is no. Notes of the Analects of Confucius first said, is to learn and practise from afar! Learning should be fun, too. Why not let the children play in the games, activities, learning? Why in his study is study? Our parents, pay attention to the child's psychological happiness! Don't let fan Chin reproduce!
5. the potential appreciation of the infinite that their child lead to success, complained that lead to failure. Let our boys and girls to begin.
Our girls toys are dolls and stuff, boys toys are often a variety of models, and it is active. That we hope that girl in your mouth tender, gentle, hope the boys bravely, and meaning. Girls get training is the result of a fight: so crazy right now, then do it? Boys fight results are appreciated: Naughty kids smart. Children grow up, they say: girls high school to die, good boys high school.
You know a lie is repeated lots of truth. Girl has been suggested is "no", boys by implication is "Yes", which makes them a different State, so as in the happiness, the author writes: "you, you on the line, no line says you can't, you can't, too. "If you have children, that we should cherish the child every opportunity for growth, their growth, their words and deeds if you kids can't, then complained, accusing them of it.
Their potential constant greater than all that has been achieved. Modern scientific studies have shown that human potential is enormous. Zhouzhou of persons with disabilities has not become the great control? Deaf girl Ting Zhou grew to United States universities top is the masterpiece of his father Zhou Hong education. Let us believe that children unlimited development potential!
6. let the children have their own thing [he loved people most happy thing is one thing, even planting flowers and small animals, spare time, energy, shelter. ]
Parents in the training of children's intelligence at the same time, must not lose sight of the cultivation of non-intelligence, should make the younger generation have ambitious goals, broad interests, intense emotions, strong-willed, independent character.
He loved people most happy thing is one thing, even if it is gardening, raising small animals, spare time, energy, shelter. Each child in the family and in schools should be a hobby for him. What is the best? Features. Now scores best, everyone is a loser.
In fact, kids study too hard, some knowledge in life are not, what is the value? Education children should be allowed to have the same things that we like, that he can't go to College, don't get into brand-name, will have a healthy life, a happy life. Different children have different values. Fudan University the graduate student to commit suicide have any value?
Many quality people, they did not receive formal education at the University. But they are growing up, learning such as University of goodness, diligence far exceeded gains.
Each child can have a different growth path, as he likes, can affect the quality of life of the child's life. A person's spiritual life is happiness, which is very important.
7. make reading a children's lifestyle [readers life not necessarily rich, but his spirit could be rich. Spiritual joy is often more important than substance. ]
Reading, the kids purifies the soul and raise personality is a very important way. For a child's development, the main task is to study. But now students have few reading textbooks, just outside reading. Children who read more, generally speaking, their vision is necessarily open, spiritual enrichment, their ambitions high, its inevitable persistence. A history of the human spirit, that is the person's reading history.
Reading to the growth was the most important. Vibrant nation in the world is the love of reading people, such as Jews. Three great figures in recent history came from the Jewish nation: Marxist materialist dialectics changed views on social, Einstein's theory of relativity established a new vision of the cosmos, Freud's psychoanalysis makes people better understand themselves. Of the world's richest, 40% were Jews; the Nobel Prize winners, most of the Jewish people. They read almost religious attitude: the child was born, coated with honey in a book, and let the children lick, meaning that reading can be sweet. They are not allowed to put books underfoot. Their average reading 60 per person, per capita in China is only 5. A man who does not read is not far away. Reading doesn't matter whether he graduated from University, the book is a real College, is a paradise for people's spiritual growth.
Quiet Zhiyuan. Reading life is not necessarily rich, but his spirit could be rich. Spiritual joy is often more important than substance.
8. let children grew up with a diary the diary is a good habit. Through wrote diary, can let children on himself of learning, and life for summary and deepening thinking; can exercise they observation life of capacity and harness language of capacity, improve they of writing level; can let children talk himself of emotional, regulation himself of mood; can training he independent of personality and independent processing things of capacity, can exercise he of wills, open he of heart, purification he of heart. Not only children, the teacher, parents can also write, many examples of success in this regard. Some even changed a child, a parent, a State school. Because if you want to write well and must be alive, doing well.
A common fact is that because parents felt that he was not a genius, so expecting their child is a genius. A proposition is correct, as long as parents and their children grow up together, even though we are not geniuses, but we can be a genius parents.
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